So hi, back to rare English again. The
main purpose I am here is that I’m going to share some thoughts after watching UP
IN THE AIR, one of a movie that so called business student must watch. Mr. Datu
asked us to focus the HR issue in the movie and analyses after that. But who
will really does that? I mean this is a movie, movie is meant for relaxation. Relaxation
activity shouldn’t relate to academic purpose. Anyway, it brings me to a
totally different view towards marriage and marriage with a kid after watching
this movie.
This
is normal, to have a companion of your life, to build a family and to have your
kids. It was my thought before watching the movie. However, I am strongly
influenced by Ryan Bingham, the leading actor in the film. He thinks that
marriage is troublesome, it is free to be single; to have kids is a burden. I
agree with him, partially agree.
Human
are all lonely, hence they need a person to share about their life. For the
sake to enrich their soul and to have a support on their life. To ensure this
relationship is secured and protected legally, people choose to marry and
officially to be tied up to each other. This is how marriage occurs. In the
perspective of Chinese, having children will give the rest of your life a
guarantee. Your children can take care of you when you are old. Somehow this is
like leaving a bridge in advance to the disable of old you.
After
watching the movie, I see having children as a huge responsibility. It is hard
to take care a person for 20 plus years, to raise them unconditionally and to
love them for my whole life. This is very challenging. I doubt if I can do
this. I even have problem cooking a meal just for myself, hahahhahaha. Now I
see thing in separate, love, marriage and children can either be connected or
stand out to be alone. To love, is giving out your heart and soul to someone;
to marry is hoping the relationship to get secure from law; to have children maybe
is because of your nafsu, hahahahahaha.
Try
not to make things complicated and see it as one, why do you need law to give
guarantee if you are so in love with a person? Loving is giving all of you to
another person. You trust your relationship, and you believe this relationship
will last long. You should have confident towards your love but not using the
name of marriage to tie it. Somehow I wonder if marriage is created to maintain
a relationship. And I was surprised by Jin saying that in a relationship, 80%
is tolerate and 20% remaining is love. You should create the spark when you
lost it. This is so tiring and horrible. Now I doubt love as well.
It
is a long journey tho, I am not sure if I will change my mind in the future.
Cause I am still young, maybe when I grow order, I probably might need
something to make myself feel secure about my future, about the rest of my
life. I actually don’t have any idea how to love now, it’s been too long since
the last time I ever loved someone. I don’t really remember how it feels when
heartbeat stops for awhile when seeing him. This is hard. I still need to differentiate
between whether companion and used to a person are count as love or not. I am
so confuse. And I hate all these small things bothering me much.
Attach here with link of saying
that 10 Movies Every Business Student Must Watch.
https://www.facebook.com/iilminstitute/photos/a.1003977156292370.1073741935.130277880328973/1003977196292366/?type=3&theater
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